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I recently connected with Garrett Gunderson, the transformational author of Killing Sacred Cows. And, he called me this morning to tell me that his radio guest cancelled and asked me to fill in.

I figured that my blog post was about “Taking Chances” so I better walk my talk and I said yes! So, tune into KTALK 630AM here in Salt Lake City at 1pm today for some intriguing conversation about money courage.

“Got a little light that I hide in my pocket for rainy days” is the first line in my song SHINE. Why did I hide my light the first place? No matter what words I use, it ultimately comes down to one thing… fear (but only every time). But fear of what? Fear of getting hurt? But wait a minute… I put a lot of energy into pretending I’m fearless!

These past few weeks I realized that I was no longer hiding my light – instead I was using my bright shiny light to try to hide my fears from the world… especially from myself. It turns out that I have been playing small, really small – playing to keep my heart safe – playing to not get hurt. The danger is that there is no such thing as safety, it’s a lie to my Soul, love can only be given and cannot be controlled (I started writing a song).

When I live my life from the context of “trying to not get hurt,” I stop taking chances. What’s so scary about taking chances? Fear of losing what I have (the known) or fear of not getting what I want. When I don’t get my own way do I pull a temper tantrum, ration my love and withdraw from the very thing I really want?

Whenever I stop sharing my gifts and focus on what I want or can get, I realize that my ego (my little self) is running my life and not my truest Self (my biggest Self). I’ve found that wanting to know the outcome right now is really just a fear of not getting what my personality/ego thinks it wants. When I lose my mind and really listen to my heart and Soul, I start to relax into the love that I already am – I call this heaven on Earth. Now who I am Being is someone giving my gifts… fearlessly.

The trouble in relationships is that as soon as I think I know something like “he is the right one for me” my mind/ego goes to work to prove that it is right. In this “knowing,” I create a whole new context/illusion for my life where I selectively choose to see what matches my illusion and exclude what does not. This is where expectations are born, and expectations are toxic, they are premeditated resentments. Then I choose to be hurt because he did not live up to my illusion, then the ego starts a new mission to prove that he is wrong. No possibility here.

True freedom and love is found in possibility, being willing to not know (because in reality we don’t anyway). Courage is the passport to the land of new possibilities which is where I experience true love; a love beyond belief, reason and proof. This is where I connect authentically heart to heart in the present moment, which in reality is the only moment we ever get. It takes courage to let go of the illusion of control – until I accept that life turns out how life turns out, but only always.

The secret to amazing relationships is loving what is, right now and staying out of the future. The future is scary because it is a projection of the mind, it’s not real, and we cannot do anything about it because it does not exist. We can only deal with real problems in the present moment in reality. Would you rather hold on to your fears or surrender and allow the love that you already are to appear?

What’s the worst that could happen if you take a chance? In reality, the worst that can happen is a thought – how you interpret what happens. I took a chance and now I’m a singer who is singing and not just talking about it (and for me, not singing is a lie to my soul).

What do you say to taking chances?

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